No Cheerleaders, Know Your Fans…….
The game of life, always played to be won, never to lose but what matters is who is there to help you when the season doesn’t turn out like you expected. The difference between how we react to our wins and losses depends solely upon our support system or what many may call our fans.
According to Merriam Webster, a cheerleader is defined as “one that calls for and directs organized cheering, as at a football game” and a fan is defined as “an enthusiastic devotee.” Have you ever participated in an event or sport and didn’t feel as if you would win? The cheerleaders are there smiling and cheering you on but it’s not until you notice your main supporter, your fan that you feel that extra surge of adrenaline pumping and pushing you to give it your all. Parents are often their children’s most loyal fans, teachers become that fan for their students, and coaches provide this support for their players…. you get the idea. The game typically improves when the main supporter is present cheering you on from the sidelines, not from seeing the cheerleaders.
In life, while battling day to day issues, we need to know who our loyal fan is. It seems as if now the main question becomes, what happens when you find out your fan is really just your cheerleader? Yes, you may be reading that thinking they’re all the same, but keep reading to find out just how different they are….
Cheerleaders (no offense to my BFF) many times are only on the team because they love what they do. They love the perks! Who wouldn’t jump on the opportunity to be showcased in front of everyone, wear cute uniforms, get into games for free, and be in the “popular” crowd? Yeah they enjoy the game/event sometimes, but it’s more-so the act of cheering that excites them. Some of them could even care less about the team because they are their own team and are in their role for what they can get out of it. To sum it all up, a cheerleader is not the same thing as a die-hard fan.
Now, a die-hard fan is always going to be there for you. Rain or shine, sleet or snow, broke or balling, a fan will always show up. Usually, the only thing that can keep a fan away is death. A fan always sees your potential, even when you doubt your own abilities or question yourself, they will be the one in your peripheral, on the sidelines yelling “You Got This!” A fan will tell you what you need to hear to improve your technique which ultimately wins the game.
When you need encouragement the most, the cheerleader can be found on the sideline making eye contact with someone else in the stands, taking selfies, talking to each other but not always encouraging you. Sure, they’ll tune in every now and then, but you are not their main priority. They’ll even provide an occasional cheer here and there to give encouragement, but they don’t truly focus on you like a fan would. Now don’t mistake it, when there’s a win, they are yelling and flipping but when you’re on a losing streak, there’s a possibility they may not even show up for the game. They prejudge the season based upon a few losses and only cheer to be seen. It’s during this time that you should notice that the fan will be there during both your successes and all of your failures. The fan isn’t there to be seen, they are there to support you because they genuinely care. Cheerleaders are often noticed first, but it’s not them you should look to for true support, it’s the fan.
Do you know who the cheerleaders and fans are in your life? What do you do when the fan is really a cheerleader and they’re hating on your game? Here you are playing your little heart out only to find out that who you thought was your biggest fan, is really a cheerleader in disguise hoping to receive perks for being on the team. When you fail, you notice they’re too busy on their phone to even provide you with an encouraging word.
In life, we have cheerleaders and we have fans. Know the difference! Just because they yell, flip, and smile does not mean they’re on your team. Every person who says “I love you” does not love you, and quite honestly, the ones you don’t hear from, the secret fans, are usually the ones who love you the most. Know your fans, keep them close, and sit the cheerleaders down because as long as you have that constant support in your peripheral, there’s no limit to just how amazingly wonderful this journey called life can be.