Don’t Fight Alone
It’s 1:40 a.m. on April 21, 2020 and I’ve decided to make another post. Covid-19 has come and literally shut the world down so many of us have a little extra time to get much needed rest, bond with family, reevaluate our life etc. Whatever you decide to do, just be sure you take care of you. I was talking to a friend and we were just talking about how important our mental health is and how often we put it on the back-burner. Sometimes we win the battle but sometimes, somewhere, someone loses.
I think about the stigma that black people place on each other for having “mental” issues, but during this pandemic, I can’t help but to think about how much at some point in time we all needed someone to talk to. I have a friend (Parker Forte M.S., LPC, LCDC) in the Dallas area, a very knowledgeable therapist who often provides free information on her Instagram page about a variety of topics. If you’re on Instagram, check her out at @talkwithparker to get pointers in how to cope with the many issues we face. She also offers telehealth!
Childhood was a time many of us perhaps took for granted and then there are a few of us who were glad and thankful to grow up. Traumatic experiences can change us for the good, but often, it changes us for the bad. We suppress those feelings/memories and it always seems to emerge during our lowest moments in life and if we don’t have the support we need, the desired outcome may be nothing more than a figment of our imagination.
Social media will try to make us believe that we can only make post about having it together because the minute something “unusual” goes up, people will swear you have lost your mind. The sad part about it is that when people get to this point, it’s usually because they have. And rather than reach out to see what’s going on, people get called crazy.
Ever thought something wasn’t right with someone close to you, but when you asked, their only response was “I’m okay?” And no matter how much you poked and prodded, they wouldn’t let you in that secret space inside their head. It’s so much pressure from society to have it all together that when you realize you don’t, you instantly go into regret mode. Regret, in my opinion is the worst feeling to have. I can’t tell you how many choices I’ve made that I regret and I’m sure may regret as I continue to grow. I try to think more about the decisions I make, after all, I am the one who must answer to God for what I do not anyone else.
Some families think medication isn’t necessary, but only the individual going through is aware of the internal struggles within. And what makes it so difficult now is that we are restricted to our homes which gives that person battling more opportunity to think and even give into their inner thoughts. Is it spiritual also? Yes, but even in the natural, God has provided man the wisdom needed to help us.
You’re not crazy if you find yourself experiencing mental issues but what I do encourage you to do is seek help. Reach out to a close friend, family or a designated hotline but don’t give up the fight. I speak to myself as I type this blog but thank God I’ve been blessed with good friends and a few family members I can reach out to. There’s nothing wrong with not having it all together, because even the one most put together is battling something internal. You may not know but trust me, they do. There’s help out there, but it just isn’t going to come to us, we have to acknowledge that we need help. I also encourage you to reach out to your family and friends.
Develop that small trusted circle of people who not only tell you but who also show that they care. Identify those people now. And remember, it may be someone you don’t talk to all the time but you at least know that they’re there for you. Friends don’t talk everyday but when you need them, they come through. There are free resources out here to help you, reach out to my friend or send me an email and I will find a contact within your area. Remember, reach out and know you don’t have to fight those battles alone.